Monday, March 1, 2010

Five Stages of Grief

My B.A. is Elementary Education but I have a minor in psychology.  I've always said I know just enough about psychology to make an improper diagnosis of my family members' problems.  Examples include OPD (obnoxious personality disorder) and LDS (laundry deficiency syndrome).  The latter came from my ex-husband's inability to do laundry.  He used to throw our sons' bunched up socks along with untreated stains in the washing machine.  I finally begged him to stop washing clothes when he threw my very expensive Amana wool coat that was to be dry cleaned ONLY into the washing machine. One thing I remember from my psychology classes is the Kubler-Ross model, AKA the 5 stages of grief; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.  

I AM PISSED.  There are a lot of idiots in this world.  Here are a few examples of them.

Example #1 -  Youdonut wrote in response to the Cedar Rapids Gazette's article about my sister's fatal accident:

February 25, 2010 at 4:36 am Glad to hear that none of the bus occupants were injured. It would be interesting to find out if it was a distracted driver though. Pretty hard not to see a stopped bus with lights flashing. Not to be pedantic, but that looks like a 2000 or 2001 Saturn L series station wagon. I've seen it around town before.

Dear Youdonut, Thank you for your condolences.  Your words are so comforting.  I will agree it is good news that none of the bus occupants were injured. My sister would have never hurt a flea let alone school children.  One time my sister found baby bunnies in the backyard.  She made my dad build a box around the bunnies so the crows wouldn't kill the bunnies.

Example #2 - Tetra021 wrote in the Des Moines Register:

Replying to nokrapt:
That is a horrifying photo. Prayers to her family.
At least you don't have to see what the aftermath on her was. Hopefully she's not too messed up to be an open casket funeral.

Dear Tetra021,  I am a little more concerned about the 2 motherless boys, age 11 and 5, that my sister is leaving behind than whether or not we can have an open casket funeral.  

Example #3 - Dajones wrote to the Des Moines Register:

OK, I'm game.
 Assuming she wasn't drunk, what would distract you to the point where you would miss a big, bright yellow school bus with big flashing yellow lights?
 I think it would be a great idea to check the cell phones records of people involved in wrecks to see if they were texting or talking on their cell phones when the wreck occured

Dear Dajones,  My sister did not drink so you can safely assume she wasn't drunk.  It was 3:30 in the afternoon and she was coming home from a long day at nursing school. She was a hard working mother trying to make a better life for herself and her boys.  And the state trooper did check the cell phone record.  She was NOT texting or talking.   It seems you and several other idiots ASSUMED she was using her cell phone.  I could have told you she was a very responsible driver and never used her cell phone while driving, but the state trooper's report is conclusive.  It is public report.  Check it out if you don't believe me. 

Example #4 - Verymad wrote to the Des Moines Register:

Was the phone call worth it?
2/24/2010 9:12:44 PMDear Verymad,  I dare you to say that to my face, you fucking coward. I've got a diagnosis for you. If being an asshole is a disease, you probably can get your insurance company to pay for an assholectomy.  I'll be at the visitation today and the funeral tomorrow.  You know where to find me.  Say it to my face.  It'll be the last thing you ever say.  


  1. So sorry to read of your loss.

  2. Verymad is obviously on their way to hell, I;d like beat their ass too Rita.

  3. I hope you're doing ok. Try not to read online posts anymore. Some people are hopeless and just not worth your time. (especially that last asshat)

    Thanks for sharing about your sister.